I recently had the pleasure of interviewing Meggan Watterson and Lodro Rinzler about their upcoming book, How To Love Yourself (And Sometimes Other People). Meggan is the founder of Reveal, an organization that spiritually empowers women. She also leads a women’s spirituality group in New York City called The Redladies. Lodro is a practitioner and teacher in the Shambhala Buddhist lineage and the author of five books on meditation, including the best-selling The Buddha Walks into a Bar and the award-winning Walk Like a Buddha.
During our conversation, Meggan and Lodro talked about everything from learning to embrace your vulnerability in relationships to meditation exercises that allow you to access love from within. Developing a strong sense of self-love not only enables you to be comfortable when you are single, but also to identify positive relationships from unhealthy ones.
Many of us allow our happiness to be dictated by the moments in our life. We feel happy only when good things happen to us. The problem with this is that when we let our moods rise and fall based on external circumstances, we are only happy until the next bad thing comes along. If you’re depending an outside source to bring your joy and sense of purpose, it’ll be like a never-ending roller coaster.
The same is true in your love life. If you are solely dependent on others to provide love, you will always be searching. But in reality, it’s within us all along. How powerful is that? Knowing that you can feel love all the time?