People We Love: Reverend Annie Lawrence

People We Love: Reverend Annie Lawrence
Photo by Steven Rosen

Weddings have been Reverend Annie Lawrence’s full-time ministry for 12 years. The Interfaith officiant joins both straight and same-sex couples whether they’re coming from halfway around the world for a New York City destination wedding or taking the subway from their apartment to the Ladies Pavilion in Central Park. Having officiated on rooftops, cruise ships, and bridges, in gardens, restaurants, and helicopters, Reverend Annie will be celebrating her 1,000th wedding this summer.

On a Rewire Me Moment That Made the Parts Whole

When I was a kid, I wanted to be Julie McCoy, the cruise director on The Love Boat. I loved being pen pals with long-distance friends. The best part of my life was doing community theater in Allentown, Pennsylvania. I thought I would go into hotel management or hospitality. And I have always been a spiritual person. So I went to seminary for my own enlightenment. I had never imagined I would make ministry my path in life, but as a wedding officiant, everything I love and do best is all in one job. I get to meet people from around the world, be their friend and New York City liaison, make them feel comfortable and excited to be here, and share in a transformative life experience.

On Marriage Equality

People We Love: Reverend Annie LawrenceI started doing same-sex ceremonies the moment I was asked, which predates New York’s legal precedent. I promised the couples that when it became legal, we’d meet again and sign the paperwork together. In July 2011, the weekend everything became “official,” I performed the ceremony for Carol and Mimi, one of the first five gay couples to receive their New York City marriage license, and a few days later I did free weddings in Washington Square Park for anyone who asked.

It’s fun following same-sex marriage celebrity champions like George Takei and Dan Savage on social media, but I’m most encouraged by the work of individuals and start-up organizations bringing light and love to #MarriageEquality and #FullEquality. I’m encouraged by the work of @EqualityPledge and those who spread the word, like @EqualityRising.

On Disapproving Guests at Same-Sex Weddings

I’ve never had one! I’ve had some couples visiting New York for the first time in order to get married here worry that they might encounter resistance or discomfort around a public ceremony. In fact, we get the opposite reaction to gay weddings here. Onlookers from around the world cheer, offer congratulations, and ask to take their picture with the newlyweds! I’m proud to tell them, “This is New York! You can be yourself here. Welcome home!”

On Beginnings

I start every wedding in my own mind, heart, and breath by saying to myself, “This is going to be the best wedding ever. Help me to stay fully present, to respond to the moment. Let me help make this one of the happiest days of their life.”

People We Love: Reverend Annie LawrenceOn Vows

Words are insufficient to express all the feelings the heart can hold. It’s not the vows I remember most from ceremonies. It’s the tears, the trembling, the elation, the joy, and the release. The hardest thing to convey to couples who wonder what I do in the ceremony besides sign the papers is that it’s not the words we say but the feelings that arise. That’s why I’m there, to safely hold the space to open our hearts, to encourage that expression, to nurture the moment so magic can happen.

On Developing a Bond Prior to Tying the Knot

I’ve been a pen pal since I was 10 years old. I wear my heart on my sleeve and share my true self-story with anyone who asks. I’m a good listener. Every one of us is eager to share what makes us happy in this world and who we love the most. I find that people take pride in sharing their love stories. The ones who can’t meet me in person prior to the ceremony do so via email, Skype interviews, and phone calls. Sharing the intimacy of their personal story quickly establishes a trust and bond between us. Some couples go off into the world and become memories, while others have stayed in touch for years and years, sending holiday cards, birthday greetings, vacation stories, and photos of their kids.

On Experience

Seminary gave me a deeper understanding of world faith and ritual, but it’s my theater experience that prepared me for this in ways that have thankfully led to success and true fulfillment. I’m not just the minister on the wedding day—I’m often the playwright, stage manager, producer, front-of-house greeter, director, and momentarily the lead actor. And then I exit—and let the stars of the day shine.

Share in the happiness of the couples Reverend Annie has joined in marriage by checking out their photos on her official Facebook page.

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4 Comments

  • Chris
    Posted June 27, 2014 10:35 am 0Likes

    what a beautiful celebration of a beautiful person. thanks, Ayun, for sharing the work and story of Reverend Annie. Love you both.

  • Christine
    Posted June 27, 2014 10:53 am 0Likes

    My girlfriend and I got married in Central Park in May, and Reverend Annie officiated. She is a lovely, lovely, lovely person, and I am so glad we found her!

  • Roger
    Posted June 27, 2014 7:58 pm 0Likes

    I’ve known Anne Lawrence for decades and she truly pours her heart into these weddings. From research, to customizing, to personal messages, and heart … she gives it all. Proud to see her recognized for something she does sooo well!! 1000 weddings? She’ll be at 2000 in less than half the time it took to get here! Congrats!

  • Steven Rosen
    Posted June 29, 2014 2:37 am 0Likes

    I’m a wedding photographer here in NYC, and have done numerous weddings with Annie. Working with Annie can be problematic because here ceremonies are so beautiful that they always make me cry. Not a good thing for a photographer. Thank God for autofocus.

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